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Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Treasure Every Moment

We've all heard this:


"Enjoy your kids now because you'll never get these days back."
"They'll never be this little again."
"Treasure each day with your child."

It seems that I always run across one of those blog posts or memes on days when I haven't had too many good mommy moments.  Days when I'm literally counting down the minutes until bedtime and simultaneously dreading the usual bedtime battle.  Days when the kids weren't the only ones yelling around our house.  Days when I wish I was done with diapers or potty training for good.

Thanks for making me feel guilty for having "wasted" another day with my kids that I'll never get back.

The truth is that it's impossible to live every single day to the fullest and to enjoy every single moment, especially with kids whose moods and behaviors can really throw a wrench in your plans.  Honestly, some days flat out suck and, when it's all said and done, you're just glad it's over.

But here's the thing.  Tomorrow is a brand new day and a new start.  You won't have a perfect day everyday and that's okay.  That's normal. 

My take on the whole "savor every moment" thing is this...don't rush through each stage of life eager to get to the next.  When you're able, stop to "smell the roses" with your child and see things through their eyes.  You'll gain a new appreciation for life and treasure these moments forever.  But don't beat yourself up if you have a day (or 2, or 10, or 30) that doesn't live up to your expectations.  Parenting small children is HARD and you don't need to add guilt onto your already overflowing plate. You are a great mom and kids need to see that even Mom isn't perfect.   

And how about not throwing that guilt on someone else's plate either?  None of us are perfect so why do we moms judge each other so much?  When you see another mom who's struggling to just make it through the day, let alone enjoy the day, rather than feeling smug about your children's good behavior that day and giving her a "look", encourage her with a smile or a reassurance that tomorrow will be better.    

From the book She...
"She not only saw a light at the end of the tunnel, she became that light for others."  
~Kobi Yamada~

 


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5 comments:

  1. Yes! It's so easy to forget this!

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  2. Those words can only be said by a mother with grown children. Those bad days just don't seem as bad in retrospect and you do wish for the days when the children were young again.

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  3. I read a quote today that really spoke to me. It said, "We try as mothers to be perfect, but only God is perfect."

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  4. This was a great post! Plenty of bad days happened around here when my boys were younger and there are new challenges as they get older it seems. Good days happen as well but it is certainly not sunshine and rainbows all the time...I like your thoughts on not adding extra guilt to it all. We're all doing the best we can for own little families :)

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