"Now you'll have a girl and a boy! Your family will be complete."
"One of each? That's so great for you! You've got the perfect family."
|The "Perfect" Family|
Which was just as bad as what my sister heard when she gave birth to her third baby, a little girl, who joined two big brothers at home...
"Congratulations, you've got your girl! Now you can quit!"
"I bet you're glad to have a girl to complete your family."
Just for the record, Hubby and I were, in fact, done growing our family after baby #2 was born. I wasn't 100% on board with that because I've always wanted a large family, but I got to the point where I was okay with it. But then God blessed us with just one more.
Even so, the comments I received when expecting Little Man irritated me. Why did people automatically assume that, just because we had one of each, that we were done? Most of the congratulations I received at that time were related to that fact. Why did all these people think that they got to decide when MY family was perfect?
Now that baby #3 is on the way, I've had some mixed reactions from people. Some are truly happy that another blessing is joining our family. Others...not so much. Because, you know, we're ruining our perfect family. I almost feel like I need to love this baby twice as much to make up for the negativity surrounding his or her impending arrival. Guess what? Just because this baby was preceded by two siblings does NOT make him any less special or important.
I've especially been appalled with the reactions my sister and her husband have received about their family. They have three beautiful children and would like to have more. But rather than see what blessings children are, most people condemn them for their choice. The most common question is "How are they planning to support all those kids?"
Well, first of all, that's nobody's business but my sister and her husband's. Most people don't go around asking others how they're going to manage to pay for that new car or make mortgage payments.
Second of all, it's not actually as expensive to raise children as everyone thinks it is. Yes, it costs money to feed and clothe them, but there are SO many ways to cut costs and it's the first boy and the first girl who are the most expensive because you're starting from scratch.
Just for the record, my sister is not expecting right now, but I have the perfect shirt for next time she announces a little addition to their family...
|"Yes I am Pregnant! Yes I know what causes it! We will decide when we have enough." from CustomTeesForTots on Etsy|
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